Category Archives: Influence

Unintentional Mentoring

I have been blessed by having many mentors that have influenced me, the majority of them were unintentional mentors.   By that, I mean they were pouring into my life, but they had no idea how much influence they had. It’s … Continue reading

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A Mentor with a Heart

I’ve always been quiet.   My natural temperament is one of introversion.  Social settings have not always comfortable for me, especially large ones.   As a young teenager a lay leader in our church profoundly impacted my life and he never knew … Continue reading

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Making Your Husband Feel Loved

There are differences in the way that men and women perceive and express love.   Understanding them will strengthen your marriage as you communicate love to your spouse in a way they best understand. One of the key ways a man … Continue reading

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The Most Neglected Advisers

When I wanted to ask Paula to marry me, I didn’t do so spontaneously.   There was something that I had to do first.   While I knew she was God’s choice for me I needed to get the approval of … Continue reading

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Three Essential Qualities for Advisers

I attended a Christian college and we had chapel services during the week.   Those were great hours when some of America’s greatest preachers and Bible teachers came to speak to us.   Also, announcements were made that pertained to the student … Continue reading

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The Value of Advisors

In the early 80’s my wife and I lived in the Washington D.C. area and I had a good friend that was in the Secret Service.  When our friends from out of town would visit my friend would graciously take … Continue reading

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Complaining Affects Your Family

I was visiting at a close friend’s house and decided to treat the family to supper.   It was a small town and so the options were limited.   After talking about possibilities we decided on some ribs.   The father of my … Continue reading

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How to Change Your Complaining to Gratitude

In the late 1970’s as a junior in college I was privileged to serve in a wonderful church in Madison, Alabama.     Each weekend I traveled from Chattanooga to minister in a variety of ways.   They were very special years in … Continue reading

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Best Friends Encourage One Another

Recently one of my dearest friends stopped by the house to visit.    We talked for a while, mostly about nothing significant.   I was blessed and strengthened by our conversation.   It was especially meaningful because of my physical condition.   I have … Continue reading

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Best Friends are Honest

Once I was complaining about an issue and when I finally finished my diatribe a close friend made a quiet, but convicting comment to me.   He said, “Rick, that’s not like you to be cynical”.    While I didn’t enjoy the … Continue reading

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