Category Archives: Change

Secret of a Strong Marriage

The strength of a structure is determined by it’s foundation.   The higher the structure, the deeper the foundation.    The foundation is hidden and unseen, but it is crucial to the strength and longevity of whatever is built on top of … Continue reading

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Things that Strengthened Our Marriage – Removing Pressure to Conform to My Schedule

When we had been married just over a year I learned a valuable lesson.   I was working at a church as a Youth Pastor and our home was about fifty yards away from the church.   Both of us were working … Continue reading

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Mistakes I Made in My Marriage – Parsing Her Words

Years ago I was driving through Chattanooga, Tennessee listening to one of my favorite preachers, Adrian Rogers.   He was telling a story about him and his wife when they had a disagreement. In the middle of their “discussion” Joyce, his … Continue reading

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Mistakes I Made in My Marriage – Failing to Appreciate the Way She Communicated

In the next several posts I will share some painful and difficult words.    They deal with mistakes I made in my relationship with Paula and some ways I have wronged her.    They aren’t in a specific order, but random as … Continue reading

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Wise Choices and New Opportunities

Years ago I was traveling to a meeting and had to fly because of the distance.   I took some reading material with me, including some correspondence.    Since I had already ferreted through the junk mail pile only a handful of … Continue reading

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The Most Neglected Advisers

When I wanted to ask Paula to marry me, I didn’t do so spontaneously.   There was something that I had to do first.   While I knew she was God’s choice for me I needed to get the approval of … Continue reading

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Three Essential Qualities for Advisers

I attended a Christian college and we had chapel services during the week.   Those were great hours when some of America’s greatest preachers and Bible teachers came to speak to us.   Also, announcements were made that pertained to the student … Continue reading

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A Key Question that Brings Wisdom

The call came late one night from a friend and without explanation he asked to meet me at my office.    I knew by the tone of his voice something was terribly wrong. As we walked down the hallway he was … Continue reading

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Four Key Decisions

As a pastor I counsel hundreds of people every year.   Sometimes it is to help someone out of a mess and other times it is to give guidance.    All decisions do not carry equal weight; some have greater consequences than … Continue reading

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Making Personal Changes for Your Family

In the first months after I was married I became irritated at Paula.    She was habitually late for appointments.   It centered around her getting ready; I had no idea how much of a process putting makeup on involved! Especially frustrating … Continue reading

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